2021.10.22 04:09 Unlikely-Mirror-4036 Can hiding infidelity ever be virtuous?
I want to preface this by saying that I do not dispute that what happened was wrong and distinctly un-virtuous, and noting that I do feel awful about it. I’m more seeking advice on how a Stoic might navigate this situation in the most virtuous way and cause the least harm.
Some backstory: I used to work with two girls, we’ll call them Alice and Beth. I met Alice when I first started the job, and we quickly became close friends despite a 10 year age gap. I didn’t meet Beth until I was 5 months into the job but we also quickly became close, and started texting almost every day. About two weeks after I’d first met Beth we all went for drinks with our office. Beth and I sat with each other and started getting a little handsy under the table, but we stopped because we were with colleagues. I was at this point still unsure if she actually liked me or if it was just a drunken thing. When the night ended I offered to walk Alice home, and when we got to hers she invited me in, and then subsequently invited me into bed.
We didn’t sleep together, or even kiss, but we did get a bit handsy before agreeing to stop because she didn’t want to ruin her reputation (she had previously been publicly burned by a coworker)/do anything we’d regret. We instead spent the night talking about that coworker, and Beth, because Alice knew Beth and I had been texting. She did ask me what was going on there and I said I wasn’t sure. In the morning we agreed to never discuss the night or bring it up again, and we remained close friends. She also actively encouraged me to pursue Beth, and told Beth to pursue me. On a later night out Beth confessed that she did like me and we kissed.
Fast forward 2 months and I’ve started a new job, and still regularly speak to Beth and Alice, and they have become close friends with each other. Beth has no clue what happened with Alice, and Alice has never brought it up either. I’m supposed to go on my first real date with Beth next week too.
The problem is that even thought feel awful about what happened and recognise that Beth has a right to know, I’m not sure telling her is actually the kindest or most virtuous thing to do. I feel like it would just be displacing my guilt onto another person, which is bad enough as it is, but given that Beth has recently opened up and told me she’s struggled with her mental health in the past it could be actively dangerous. I do question whether her hearing from someone else would be worse though. Telling her would also involve betraying Alice’s trust, and Alice has been having a rough time after getting burned by that coworker anyway. Similarly, Beth and I weren’t even together at the time, and Alice and I didn’t actually sleep together. Would it not just cause unnecessary suffering? I’m really struggling with how to cause the least harm here and could do with some stoic advice, though I recognise I probably don’t deserve it.
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2021.10.22 04:08 papersucculent6 The guy I like is a codependent attention whore and I don’t know what to do
I am really into this guy and he has told me he likes me, is attracted to me, and wants to get to know me better, but doesn’t trust himself to do anything physical/casual because he worries about feelings. He just got out of a serious relationship/engagement which ended very badly. The wedding was cancelled.
We hang out and see each other pretty frequently, but it feels platonic, with a flirty comment thrown in here and there. He really hasn’t been making many moves to get to know me better; it seems like the ball is very much in my court because of boundaries that we have both set with each other.
The other problem is that he is very friendly with other women. Nothing romantic is going on, but he just has a million female friends and is super outgoing with every girl he meets, making plans, hanging out one on one, inviting them over to hang out and watch a movie at night, etc.
I think his behavior is pretty selfish. However, I’m physically and sexually very attracted to him, and it sucks. This sucks.
What is your take on this guy, based on the info shared in this post? What should I do? Please help, internet strangers. This is eating away at me.
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2021.10.22 04:08 ProAssassin84 Melee needs a huge buff in higher activities.
When I started my Titan character for the first time I thought of a pure Melee build so I started building my character. Everything was going great and I felt really powerful. I was using Wormgods and tried different sub classes. I really liked throwing hammers as you could get the buffs flowing and do upwards of 400K damage per Hammer throw. Amazing right?
Well all of this falls apart in higher difficulties. You have to activate most melee bonuses on Armor or Subclasses and doing that is impossible on higher difficulties. Even trash mobs you can't one shot to get your bonuses with any Melee rendering a Melee build completely useless. Shooting helps but by the time you start going you're melted.
Synthoceps seem more appropriate but I would bet even on Higher difficulties they're not useful also. This is very troublesome as most Subclasses and paths have great Melee bonuses yet most are completely useless for end game.
I'm now faced with changing my Titan build entirely now.
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